Our Story

Humans are wired for social connection, and yet too often we find ourselves and those around us lost in a digital world, distracted or locked into familiar routines that keep us isolated. Studies show that 25% of Americans have nobody they feel they could talk to about a personal problem. Our youth is becoming increasingly lonely, anxious and depressed. Yet research shows we live longer and are healthier if our social connections are strong. The strength and quantity of our social ties impacts everything from our mental and physical health to our actual mortality.

Research like this combined with a desire to develop stronger and more personal relationships inspired Phi land Mauri to make strengthening human connection within their community a personal mission. Phil loves music. Mauri loves learning. The House is a platform through which they could each explore topics of interest, learning, new music, etc. while fostering real connections.

Authentic social connections make us feel good! “Social connection triggers the same reward centers in your brain that are triggered when people do drugs, drink alcohol or eat chocolate” according to James R Doty, MD.

So we created The House, a social media app, that will help you make real human connection through organizing meaningful and intimate events. There are people waiting for you to find them. Host or join an event. We’ll be right here to help you.

Science of
Connection

Or how The House promotes healthy human connection through intimate and meaningful gatherings
Connection is a Human Necessity – We Can’t Survive Without Each Other

“Our well-being depends on our connections with others”

-Matthew Lieberman, director of UCLA’s Cognitive Neuroscience Lab and author of Social: Why our brains are wired to connect

From the moment we’re born, we need others to care for us–we rely on someone else for food, shelter, and defense. This is how humanity has survived and progressed. We can’t get very far without each other–buildings would not be built, cures for disease would be left undiscovered, and excessive cortisol levels would probably have killed us all off long ago. We need each other. This is not a luxury. Community is a necessity for human existence and evolution. The connection is physical, not digital. To survive, we must be together, in person, face-to-face–intimately.

We do not have bodies; we are bodies. If my body was different, I would be different. If I was made of silicon or fibre optics, I would need different things, respond to different things, notice different things, and be intelligent in a different kind of way…my intelligent flesh has evolved as part of its intelligence, strategies and capacities that I think of as my ‘mind.’ I am smart precisely because I am a body.

-Guy Claxton, Intelligence in the Flesh: why your mind needs your body much more than it thinks
Connection is the Way Forward – Human Networks are Creative Laboratories

We’re wired for peer-to-peer learning

Memory & Cognition Journal

For mammals, our brains are relatively large–and we don’t fill it up with our own observations and experiences alone. We learn best in social environments, not from solitary study. If we have to teach something to someone else, we’ll retain the information much better–not to mention the pollination of ideas that allows them to take root, grow, and evolve. If you want to know something, really know it, share it. We evolve not because we show what we know, but because we share and experience what we know.

As we explore new ways of thinking, we need to be willing to investigate, experiment, take some risks with our attention, and stretch

Sharon Salzberg, Real Love: The Art of Mindful Connection
The Self is a “Trojan Horse” Inseparable from Community

Nothing is built, made, or imagined in a vacuum.

 

For better and for worse, we are influenced deeply and constantly by our peers, families, colleagues, and, with globalization, the entire world population. These large mammalian brains of ours can store a lot of information, a lot of it hidden from our own consciousness–it’s there, but we’re rarely aware of it and how it effects our actions. At the end of the day, the Self is not separate at all from Other. We are influenced by everyone and everything–we might as well try to be aware of the dynamics shaping our communities and deliberate in using the information and values we absorb.

The neural basis for our personal beliefs overlaps significantly with one of the regions of the brain primarily responsible for allowing other people’s beliefs to influence our own. The self is more of a superhighway for social influence than it is the impenetrable private fortress we believe it to be.

Matthew Lieberman, social: why our brains are wired to connect